Karma's Shout Out
As Karma would have it I am not a bragging type of person ........ But as Fathers Day will be upon us soon I have to share this shout out/ Love Letter To My HUBS.
For even though he is not my father HE is the FATHER of my children and to many, many others he is their strong father type,figure and mentor.
When I meet hubs it was after many years of mental,physical and sexual abuse from violent boyfriends so I was quiet reluctant to even open my heart to anyone but there was something about his easy going gentle nature that drew me in. I was ever cautious of most men/boys due to all the baggage I seem to carry plus I had a young daughter (baby bird) to protect as well.
Hubs was patient and most of all he tolerated baby bird on her most awful bratty days when for spite she once bite him , and even spit on him. He won her over with kindness,patient,hair bows and donuts. He never thought twice about raising someone else's daughter.
There is a lot that can be said for anyone that will go above and beyond for children that are not their own and he did not stop there as my nieces were born into the fold he took them in and helped bring them up as well, he stepped up and allowed my sisters and their children to live with us for many years when both their marriages ended. He never complained he just did what had to be done in life supporting and protecting us.
Hubs is the kind of person that is always there for you no matter what he will go far beyond what is called for to help anyone and everyone out.I also say that because someone said to him a couple of weeks ago he only goes around his " friend when he wants something" at some point or another everyone,I don't care who you are needs a helping hand but at the end of the day he will work his ass off above and beyond what he borrowed no matter how tired he is to get it paid back. When he steps up and helps someone he never expects anything in return he is not looking for praise,glory or a handout he is simply paying it forward many times I have seen him give away things that he knew someone needed more then we did. Since we don't have a lot of money he gives his time and of himself to those in need.
He takes a lot of grief from me for I am bitchy,bossy and always seem to be on the edge of some type of personal drama. I also suffer from clinical depression and I can never truly imagine how tired he gets of dealing with me all the time. But he does it in his own quiet way he has helped me raise our children to be kind(at times because face it our daughters are just like me in their take charge bitchy bossy own way), and to have a strong work ethic.As a side note I will say that both of us are incredible proud of our kids all three of them went to collage, and all three of them are talented in their own way they work hard at the jobs we have been told by their employers what hard workers and likable employees they are.
Hubs is a very,very hard worker some people see him and think that because he is a big guy he is lazy but never ever have I meet anyone that works as hard as he does not only does he get up at 5 AM every morning and work until sometimes 3:30 pm or later he mows other peoples yards in the summertime like he is still a teenager (we are both on the cusp of 50 ) he is a wonderful provider for our family and he always has been. His work standards are high and he never tolerates the lazy.
Few people know what life was like for hubs had growing up with 6 kids and being raised by his step father whom sometimes was rough,put it mildly I won't say too much because that is his story to tell and also because I don't think his younger siblings realize how hard and rough it really was for him but he has never used that for an excuse he simple made sure he grew up to be a different kind of man then the one that raised him.
In our 25 years of marriage Jerry has always made sure that I have the"nice" car to drive that is why he is still driving a seen better day mini van that is ready for that great junk yard in the sky.
That if I needed or even wanted something he tried his best to make sure I got it .
That he would always hand me his last dollar so that I will have at least a little money in my pocket for "You know just in case."
That he tells me he loves me at least twice a day.
That he has always pitched in when it came to the everyday household chores and he is a down right magician when if comes to getting the laundry done.
That whenever my parents needed some heavy lifting he was there to help out even if it meant he may get fussed at for not doing it just so.
That he makes me laugh even though his jokes goofy and hardly ever that funny.
That I say all that to say this............To my husband I Love you very much even if It doesn't always seem like it. I am extremely grateful for the hard work you do every day, I am thankful that you are the man you are, gentle, kind, and caring, I love that you have always allowed me to be myself, when a lesser man would have tried to change me into someone I am not. You have spoiled me in ways that I am sure I deserve. I am blessed that you have supported me in my times of need. It is with this Love Letter to you that for the first time in my life I am having trouble finding words to tell you
just how much I truly appreciate you. Thank you for giving me such awesome children and for once in my life I think Karma got it right when we were matched up for we seem to be have been made just for each other.
With All My Sappy,Mushy,Cheesy,Touchy,Feely Chick Flick Moment
Love ME.
For even though he is not my father HE is the FATHER of my children and to many, many others he is their strong father type,figure and mentor.
When I meet hubs it was after many years of mental,physical and sexual abuse from violent boyfriends so I was quiet reluctant to even open my heart to anyone but there was something about his easy going gentle nature that drew me in. I was ever cautious of most men/boys due to all the baggage I seem to carry plus I had a young daughter (baby bird) to protect as well.
Hubs was patient and most of all he tolerated baby bird on her most awful bratty days when for spite she once bite him , and even spit on him. He won her over with kindness,patient,hair bows and donuts. He never thought twice about raising someone else's daughter.
There is a lot that can be said for anyone that will go above and beyond for children that are not their own and he did not stop there as my nieces were born into the fold he took them in and helped bring them up as well, he stepped up and allowed my sisters and their children to live with us for many years when both their marriages ended. He never complained he just did what had to be done in life supporting and protecting us.
Hubs is the kind of person that is always there for you no matter what he will go far beyond what is called for to help anyone and everyone out.I also say that because someone said to him a couple of weeks ago he only goes around his " friend when he wants something" at some point or another everyone,I don't care who you are needs a helping hand but at the end of the day he will work his ass off above and beyond what he borrowed no matter how tired he is to get it paid back. When he steps up and helps someone he never expects anything in return he is not looking for praise,glory or a handout he is simply paying it forward many times I have seen him give away things that he knew someone needed more then we did. Since we don't have a lot of money he gives his time and of himself to those in need.
He takes a lot of grief from me for I am bitchy,bossy and always seem to be on the edge of some type of personal drama. I also suffer from clinical depression and I can never truly imagine how tired he gets of dealing with me all the time. But he does it in his own quiet way he has helped me raise our children to be kind(at times because face it our daughters are just like me in their take charge bitchy bossy own way), and to have a strong work ethic.As a side note I will say that both of us are incredible proud of our kids all three of them went to collage, and all three of them are talented in their own way they work hard at the jobs we have been told by their employers what hard workers and likable employees they are.
Hubs is a very,very hard worker some people see him and think that because he is a big guy he is lazy but never ever have I meet anyone that works as hard as he does not only does he get up at 5 AM every morning and work until sometimes 3:30 pm or later he mows other peoples yards in the summertime like he is still a teenager (we are both on the cusp of 50 ) he is a wonderful provider for our family and he always has been. His work standards are high and he never tolerates the lazy.
Few people know what life was like for hubs had growing up with 6 kids and being raised by his step father whom sometimes was rough,put it mildly I won't say too much because that is his story to tell and also because I don't think his younger siblings realize how hard and rough it really was for him but he has never used that for an excuse he simple made sure he grew up to be a different kind of man then the one that raised him.
In our 25 years of marriage Jerry has always made sure that I have the"nice" car to drive that is why he is still driving a seen better day mini van that is ready for that great junk yard in the sky.
That if I needed or even wanted something he tried his best to make sure I got it .
That he would always hand me his last dollar so that I will have at least a little money in my pocket for "You know just in case."
That he tells me he loves me at least twice a day.
That he has always pitched in when it came to the everyday household chores and he is a down right magician when if comes to getting the laundry done.
That whenever my parents needed some heavy lifting he was there to help out even if it meant he may get fussed at for not doing it just so.
That he makes me laugh even though his jokes goofy and hardly ever that funny.
That I say all that to say this............To my husband I Love you very much even if It doesn't always seem like it. I am extremely grateful for the hard work you do every day, I am thankful that you are the man you are, gentle, kind, and caring, I love that you have always allowed me to be myself, when a lesser man would have tried to change me into someone I am not. You have spoiled me in ways that I am sure I deserve. I am blessed that you have supported me in my times of need. It is with this Love Letter to you that for the first time in my life I am having trouble finding words to tell you
just how much I truly appreciate you. Thank you for giving me such awesome children and for once in my life I think Karma got it right when we were matched up for we seem to be have been made just for each other.
With All My Sappy,Mushy,Cheesy,Touchy,Feely Chick Flick Moment
Love ME.
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